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Moral values, and a culture and a religion, maintaining these values are far better than laws and regulations.

Swami Sivananda

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Noted Indian philosopher and wise man, Swami Sivananda has it right.  Laws alone are not our completion, our fulfillment – nor the source of our power and identity.

The truth is those with humility have the greatest strength.  They stand without fear in the face of terror and death, for they know eternity and that it awaits those who believe.

If you were to read of the history of Western Civilization and its unique formation and evolution over centuries, you would see and know of something to marvel.  You would see your blessings and take comfort – indeed you would seek to preserve what we have.

But alas we have many among us who attack what we have, disparage religion, attempt to deny God, and deconstruct marriage, gender, nature, the institutions that provide protection for each sovereign citizen and for those who live their religion in their every day, … those who adhere to a moral code.

The destructive actions I see today give me great concern.  Attacking what we have is an act that insures our dissolution – a destruction that cannot be easily re-assembled.

Those who destroy our historic gifts pave the way for an ugly totalitarianism, a loss of freedom and meaning.  This is a very, very dangerous course – rejecting sacred gifts always is.

What are you doing to preserve our blessings?

Shalom.

Postscript – We have been poorly served by the education establishment (colleges and universities included) and our political and media figures insofar as we have not familiarized our sons and daughters with the treasure that is Western Civilization.

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… examine everything carefully, hold fast to that which is good; abstain from every form of evil.

1 Thes 5: 21-22

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God created man and woman to be in close personal relationship with their Creator and with one another.  (Gen 1:27)  We are made to be complimentary to one another.  In such union there is divinity – Holy Matrimony.  Yes, our relationship is sacred and honoring it is our duty and the source of our peace and happiness.  Scared it is.  Political it is not.  Divine it is.  Ideological it is not.

The relationship between men and women is good and it is our duty to retain its goodness.  But among us there are those who would destroy this.  Many radical feminists and others who pursue craven desires seek to divide woman from man.  Too often we are silent and inert when such hatred and division is so near, so clear, overt and hostile.

We are called to good, not silence in the presence of evil.  Woe to those who are silent in the presence to of evil … think of the threat posed to innocents, to children in particular when evil of this sort is left unchallenged – permitted its voice without opposition.

If you wonder that others possess such hatred, think of radical feminist Andrea Dworkin’s words: “I want to see a man beaten to a bloody pulp with a high heed shoved in his mouth, like an apple in the mouth of a pig.”

With words like this, is anyone surprised at the conduct of radical feminists women and the Democrat Left and those who counsel hostility?  Did they not show their colors in the Kavanaugh hearings?

Things that are sacred to life and essential to peaceful, free society, fellowship and community are being attacked.

Are we to remain silent and in this muteness hasten further destruction and division?

Shalom.

Postscript – Ms. Dworkin is best remembered for her good work in opposition to pornography – a topic well worth one’s opposition.  Sadly, she passed away in 2005 at age 59.

In a way, her life shows us that violence begets violence.  How well I know this from my own life experience.  Which for me is precisely why it is essential that we address anyone who urges hostility and attacks what is good – particularly what is godly and good.  May she find eternal rest.

 

The day begins with gray and rain – all is well moistened.  Somewhere near Noah is building an Ark.  We are well beyond 40 days and 40 nights.  Gregorian Chants play.  Adorate Deum warms the heart and strengthens all within.

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… the philosophy of meaninglessness was essentially an instrument of liberation from a certain system of morality … We objected to morality because it interfered with our sexual freedom … this system that … embodied … meaning … Christian meaning …

Aldous Huxley, in Ends and Means

No one … can terrorize a whole nation unless we are all his (or her) accomplices.

Edward R. Morrow (Commenting on McCarthyism in the 1950’s)

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Today the “sexual revolution” has met McCarthyism as was inevitable all along.  “Inevitable?” you ask.  Yes.

Huxley tells of the destruction of meaning and resentment of Christianity and Western Civilization, of the implicit hostility embodied in Marxist “liberation” – the selfish deconstructing quest to move from God-and God-fullness to Godlessness – from meaning to meaninglessness.

The product of the “sexual revolution” is clear.  Truth is a victim, justice too.  Add family, marriage and Holy Matrimony, pregnancy, motherhood, gender, fathers being fathers, the unborn, men qua men (who must now be the villains in all cases – convenient or otherwise) and, of course, “morality.”  ‘Tis the Stalinist way.  Yet, ’tis the way of Joe McCarthy, too – guilt without fact, guilt by association – now as bad as it was then, and still is now – guilt by reason of maleness.

Look now and see the McCarthy-Left and its female captains of varied sexual self-demonination.  Like Tailgunner-Joe (but without the military service) they turn law and justice on its head – all in the name of personal desire and political objective.  Look, too, at the prep-school conspirators in the government – so sure their way is right and your way is wrong.  And think, too, of those in religious authority who cover-up rather than convert – electing convenience and corruption over Canons.

‘Tis a dizzy time with a cast of characters like none as much as those in the Coen Brothers’ Big Lebowski.  Yes, that odd and yet that so revealing of a place and a way in which sanity departs leaving the weird in stumbling and incoherent bloom.

In all this we meet newsman Morrow today, and the question remains –  can terror reign without accomplices?

Rather puts the media (digital, televised, broadcast, print), entertainers, bureaucracies and bureaucrats, legislatures, academics, ideologues, women, and in-the-tank think-tankers, and those who profess to believe in the dock – and so be it.

Shalom.

… signs … Jesus … performed … have been written that you may believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God; and that believing you may have life in His name.

Jn 20: 30,31

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Believing or not believing.  Belief in God or belief in nothing.  Theism or nihilism.  We face this proposition more directly today than we have probably in our history.

I have a very dear childhood friend.  He was my closest friend growing up.  We were like brothers – did so many things together.  Shared the same classes and teachers throughout school.  I was like a family member in his home.  His mother treated me like one of her children.  She and my mother were best of friends.

My friend is now in a nursing home.  He is frail.  Spends a good deal of time in bed.  As a child he was bright, friendly, a reader – social, trusted, quite capable.  In his late adolescence he seemed to be at odds with institutions and authority – but more to the point he began to lose interest in the world around him.  He seemed to make a wilful decision to reject this or that – his skepticism began to grow.  His actions seemed to say: life is worthless – this view and his skepticism grew as he aged.

He drank consistently throughout his life beginning when he was a teenager.  His initial adult working life seemed consistent with his abilities.  He had a modest political life and was elected to his local School Board.  His two children were successful.  He seemed at odds with his wife and she with him most of their married life.  She too was a negative person.

His negativity continued to grow – his work history declined as his cynicism strengthened.  He suffered from seizures.  Eventually his downward work trajectory ended when he worked himself out of a janitor’s job, being fired from a government position despite his union membership.  A very hard act to accomplish.  He burned bridges at work and with family members.  He scoffed at religion and those who tried to help him.

If I have to point to one thing that explains my friend’s decline it is this: he became a cynic – lived as a nihilist.  He lived as if to say very loudly – life has no meaning.  Nothing  met his approval – all was more or less rejected.  He lived as if to deny his own existence and existence itself.  

I see his attitude in our culture and politics today.  Those who reject national borders sound like him.  The lapses with the Vatican as to sex abuse, denying law, morality and the Canons of the Church reflect his disposition. The upheaval in sexual mores, in families, in lawless urban enclaves seem to say: “belief in good” no longer holds.   The corruption at the federal bureaucratic level says much the same thing – truth and honesty are not honored in practice.  Drug addictions, suicides, random violence and corporate men preying on women employees – but more indications of decline and decay, amoral behavior – signs of depravity and reasons for serious concern.

All this to say but one simple thing: I do not hear much said about nihilism and the denial of values, morals, conduct – rather, too often, I see others advocating decline and decay – angry people attacking structures and codes of conduct that hold us together and provide a basis for community, peace and prosperity … life itself.

Theism or Nihilism.  Believe in something or believe in nothing.  God or nothing at all.

Shalom.

The eternal life is not the future life; it is life in harmony with the true order of things.

Henri Amiel, in Journal

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I have taken to distancing myself from the everyday, and particularly “the news” only in so far as I cast a glance at the calamity and the ridiculous ignorance of many who “report” on it and then, God help us, provide their own uneducated, small-minded, predictable, silly “commentary” on the happenings they mention.

That one thrust alone makes space of eternity.  The intellectual poverty and rote recitations of some left leaning ideological fetish are ironically liberating and sanity-preserving, if not life saving.  Enter what is eternal and indestructible.

Aye, a far better and healthier focus where love and humility seem to grow.

In the void that the nonsense has created, I live closer to my faith, and my loved ones (especially the little children) are more in my thoughts and prayers.  God and those I love and what is good emerge as most important.

My world is now meaningful and not confined to what is inane, self-destructive, erroneous, ignorant and captive to all the “clap trap” of fickle styles, language, forms of expression and the chorus of trained parrots that passes for contemporary discourse … and such.

I much prefer what is true and not mad, to what is false and perpetually angry.

In this I remember St. Augustine who wrote: “Eternal life is the actual knowledge of the truth.”  (De moribus Ecclesiae catholicae, etc.)

As a compassionate man, I offer this to you: walk away from the nonsense.  It is disorienting, wrong-headed, and destructive of person, culture and nation.

Shalom.

 

To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders.

Lao-tzu

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The older I get, the more I settle into quiet and keep things as simple as possible.

I have no taste for crowds, fast roadways, complicated gadgets, air travel and such.  My diet is simple and ample.  Time with friends and family matter so very much.

The quiet seems right.  It leads to peace and prayer and conversation with God – a rendering of spontaneous gratitude for all I have been given, for the love I have received and the experiences large and small – the memories of people, places and events.

Now I see how grandchildren carry hope for tomorrow and bring that hope to me.  I see in them hope alive in their days, and their joys and pleasures, and a love so readily shared – so openly proclaimed by these little people.  Wonderful, so wonderful.  For me, they are proof of God’s existence and signposts for who we are meant to be, and how we are meant to live.

In the quiet and the solitude I am acutely aware of the confusion and pain that others create out of pride and their own disordered thinking.  Full of energy and themselves they make matters worse by insisting on changing things “for the better.”  They are not quiet people.  They seem to prefer the crowded clown car of the circus – yet, they always fight one another to be the driver.

In quiet I know both joy and sadness, I hear my breath and feel strongly the experiences that gave me depth and comfort, improved my vision, produced understanding – led me to faith and to God.

Now the voices of those I love are symphonies for me.  The memories of those I loved who have died are my favorite movies.  The memories of yesterdays my treasured photos.

Now I do not need much and in my days little tasks bring appreciation and satisfaction – sweeping the floor, folding the laundry, keeping the grounds clean … I notice the pleasure of such things – the cool afternoon breeze off the mountains and the changing landscape as the sun moves west and fades slowly into tomorrow.

Proper quiet gives the fullness of being.

Shalom.

Some Pharisees came up to Jesus, testing Him, and began to question Him whether it was lawful for a man to divorce his wife.  He … said, “What did Moses command you?”  They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.”  Jesus said … “Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote you this commandment.  But from the beginning of creation, God made male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and the two shall no longer be two, but one flesh.”

Mk 10: 2-8

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Divorces have become common.  In the terms of the above words from Jesus – they are evidence of “hardness of heart.”

How casually we divorce!  If one wanted to see a concrete sign of our faithlessness one need only think of the divorces we have seen, the motivations of the moving party and the injuries they so easily inflict on children and the spouse who is being divorced.

Hardness of heart.  What a dreadful identification for a person to hold.

I know a man whose wife filed for divorce without any assertion of cause represented by the man’s behavior.  Her reason for divorce: their child was off to college and she felt “their work was done.”  Of course, it might be noted that her two closest girlfriends maintained adulterous relationships with wealthy men who they eventually married.  Behind the scene, of course, was this – the woman wanted to find a man with money.  She, in due time, married a wealthy man – no thought about the effects on her child or her former spouse.  I suppose that qualifies for a hardened heart.

Let’s be brutally honest – as a culture we are closer to hardness of heart than to God.  And, yet we wring our hands and wonder: what is wrong with this country?

Yes, we are what is wrong – we blow-up families, crave material things, pledge words that are easily broken.  Yep, we excuse all sorts of dreadful behavior.  Shame on us!

Shalom.

 

 

 

The important lesson that the family taught was the existence of the only unbreakable bond … between human beings.

The decomposition of this is surely America’s most urgent social problem.

Allan Bloom, in The Closing of the American Mind

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Imagine what might happen if people began to examine public policy at the national and state level from this perspective: what does this policy do to promote intact families?

Asking that one question, I suspect, would raise real doubts about our public policies.  Indeed, I bet if that became a threshold question – the negative effects of policy on family would lead to abandonment of a very significant number of government activities that have produced harm rather than good.

It seems to be we do little to fortify the family.  Take divorce for example – most states entertain “no fault” divorce.  Want a divorce?  No problem.  Divide a child from his father?  No problem.

Think about the present subsidy going to single, unmarried women with children who continue to have more children with other men.  How does this help anyone?  The children?  The women?  The men who fathered these children?  A community?  A city?  A state?  A nation?  The family?

Ironically, divorce lawyers seem untainted by what they do … I’ve not met one that wonders what effect divorce has on this society.

Those who advanced the “sexual revolution” rarely seem to be asked what effect they have had on family, on children, women and men?  On intimacy?  On human dignity and maturity, responsibility, virtue, honor, loyalty, fidelity?

In sum, I guess I am somewhat astonished that we never seem to examine what we do in vital areas and the public course we set even though we see injury and disarray among American families – so fundamental to our health, peace and prosperity.

Shalom.

 

The beauty of the soul shines out when a man bears with composure one heavy mischance after another, not because he does not feel them, but because he is a man of high heroic temper.

Aristotle

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Men have been a target for some decades now.  In the course of this we forget that the best of them are as Aristotle describes.  You need only think of fallen heroes – men who died too young.  Or of the everyday Dad who pledges himself to his wife and their children and, having done so, never fails them.

Men have been made to be stalwart and strong from the inside outside.  They speak up when others will not.  They seek no applause.  They fear no isolation – they know it is the price of courage and promises made.

Some see difficulties and pause in fear.  Others see in difficulties advantage to be had and proceed with courage.  Good men proceed – are never frozen in place when obstacles appear.  They face down evil.

We best not forget who the good men are and how they make contributions routinely that run great risk, show great love and selfless sacrifice.

Forget not Good Men.

Shalom.

No More – A young Weymouth, Massachusetts, police office was shot and killed, this Sunday morning, by a man who seized his gun and turned it on the officer.  The killer was attempting to break into a home (according to news reports).

No more, People – “NO MORE!”  A man leaves home to protect us and does not return!!!

It is now our turn – this has gone too far – way too far.  Expedited trials and timely appeals.

 

God, Who is everywhere never leaves us.

Thomas Merton, in No Man is an Island

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It seems to us from time to time that God is not present to us.  But this would appear to negate what Merton says above.

What might one say?  Merton says this: sometimes God seems present to us and sometimes He seems absent from us.  This is normal.  Merton tells us this: God may be more present to us when he appears absent than when He appears present.

Strange, you might think.  And you might ask: How can this be?  More present when we think He is absent?

To figure this out Merton points out that there are two kinds of “absent.”  One is a condemnation – God is absent from us “because we put some other god in His place and refuse to be known by Him.”

In the second form of “absent” we are not condemned but sanctified!  In that experience of His absence He “empties the soul of every image that might become an idol and of every concern that might stand between our face and His Face.”

Condemned is what our culture has done presently – how we live at-large in a secularized culture that intentionally excludes God and foolishly elevates the human person – their physical and intellectual desires above God.  All of the homicides, violence, broken relationships, addictions, predatory behavior, conflicts, divisions, abortions, child abuse and neglect, abhorrent inter-personal behavior and actions intended to destabilize the country are acts of condemnation on our part.

The sense that God is absent to us in the whole is an accurate indication of our present day experience.  We have met the enemy and he is us.

Sanctification is something else again.  Here God acts positively and protectively to insure that we do not personally (one by one) acquire the means to divide ourselves from God.

In sanctification God loves us so that He leads us to a place where we realize that the things we have cherished are NOT God and as such can never satisfy or fulfill us in and by themselves.  You see when find that we have begun to place even the best things we do or encounter above God, God reminds us that even the good we do cannot satisfy as God can for the good we do does not love us the way the God who is Love does.

When the day grows quiet and you are alone, ask yourself if you have placed things above God – even the good things you do.  If that might be so, ask God to bring you back to Him.

As for the serious disarray we have in our culture and country, it is way past time to seek that God might bring us back to Him.

Shalom.

 

 

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