Understanding someone’s suffering is the best gift you can give another person.  Understanding is love’s other name.  If you can’t understand you can’t love.

Thich Nhat Hanh, in How to Love

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Hanh is a masterful Buddhist teacher and a monk.  His wonderful three book set (How to Love, How to Sit, How to Eat) is a lovely set of wisdom books given me by my Son in a hand-made artist box (which he made) into which these treasures sit so tightly.  Yes, they sit on a book shelf within arm’s reach of my bed.  It is always good to have Hanh, these books and my Son close to me.  Books, art, love and living well and wisely matter greatly to my Son and to me.

Understanding.  When we understand another, we take in their story, their existence, their heart, their soul, their doubts and fears, their triumphs and defeats, their hopes and aspirations, their sanctity, their dignity, their challenges, their joys and their sadness, their laughter and their tears.  Ah, but our ability to understand depends on our having come to understand ourselves and life as it presents itself to each and all of us.

This for the Christian is the essence of Christ’s admonition to “take up the cross” and follow him.  Life is, for all, a challenging journey … in life we find our “Crosses” and our “Crosses” find us … yet in this journey (when it is fully accepted – pains and joys the same) we come to understanding and make of us one capable of love.

Shalom.

 

 

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