In Memory of Sylvia Sylvester

Love is responsibility for an I and for a You; in this consists what cannot consist in any other feeling – the equality of all lovers.

Martin Buber, in I and Thou

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Such a brilliant observation from Martin Buber.

Perhaps, it warrants two comments.  One, the responsibility for “an I” requires that the “I” know himself or herself completely, know his or her flaws and limitations.  Otherwise, how can “an I” know “a You?

Take for example person A and person B.

What if A in the course of their childhood lived in a family where expectations for perfection were stringent and unreasonable, but constant, and A’s mother was unloving and disapproving, and A’s father was disinterested in A’s gaining independence?

In such a family, A’s fullness would be thwarted, A could be anxious and need to defend vigorously any conversation in which A sensed “disapproval.”  A, you see, would need to fight for survival in a very small space experienced in their family of origin.

In such a situation, how would A’s “I” carry out a responsibility for B’s “You?”

Indeed any disagreement with B would be a threat to A’s existence.  A would, naturally, defend any criticism or objection likely to occur in the normal course to human discourse between A and B.  In such a situation, how would A and B know the beautiful “equality of all lovers?”

One can pose the same question as to the American Left and their opposite: American Traditionalists as to our recent election.

The Left (A) is peculiarly distort because Traditionalists (B) won.

A seems unusually upset, acts out in hateful and defiant ways, belittles and discredits B (the victor) and all the B’s who supported the winner.

Name calling is in vogue with the A’s.  They are unable to entertain normal civility and a peaceful and gracious transfer of power.  They are “fit to be tied.”

More to the point, they cannot see that their conduct, views and disposition may have caused their defeat.  No introspection, blinded by their own “certainty” that they know best, and that they know all.

Like the A in the above example, they lack any capacity for introspection – focusing on the real and imagined faults of B, not on their own.

Aside from A acting childishly, they cannot experience love or friendship between A and B.  Stuck in their own importance, “correctness,” and arrogance, they are unable to co-exist with B.  They throw a tandrum, raise a fuss and show themselves ironically the reason for their rejection.

Not much room for fellowship when A is so hostile, so lacking in humility, so cock-sure of their being right that B to them are merely a “basket of deplorables.”

Ironically, we see A is blind to their own faults, simply cannot see themselves and is far removed for a healthy disposition and the I and Thou that Buber insightfully identifies.

A is, sadly, blindly anchored in self – with no space for others.  Extraordinary arrogance.

This is where our culture is at the present time.  It is a very unhealthy, unfriendly, unloving state.


Make No Mistake: We face a cultural conflict.  The Traditionalists – those who value faith, freedom of religion, the genius of Constitution and its original meaning, the autonomy of the states and the sovereignty of each American, our Nation and its borders and our unique heritage, free market capitalism, law and order, the military and our national economic and security interests must reverse the perversity of the Left, their special pleading, foolishness and their scorn of this Nation.  Policy alone will not attend to the problem we face.  Policy is but a first step.  Public discussion and education are vital.