Now there were standing by the cross of Jesus his mother and his mother’s sister, Mary of Cleophas, and Mary Magdalene.  When Jesus, therefore, saw his mother … he said to his mother, “Woman, behold, thy son.” Then he said to the disciple, “Behold, thy mother.”

Jn 19:25,26,27

This post is dedicated to my daughter-in-law Mary on the day her child will be baptized and to all women, especially those who have dedicated themselves to being mothers.  We are lost without them – lost.

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Woman as birth-givers have a special role in human history.  Mary shows this in a very particular way in the Christian and Catholic narrative.

There is in Mary a divine connection between her and her Son.  There she is standing by the cross – a loving mother from conception to death.  Mary as mother – the Divine connection in the Divine plan.

It is quite clear that Mary knows her Son’s divinity.  She can see what others could not initially see.  She experienced what others could not so quickly experience. Her words at the wedding at Cana tell us that.  She knew him before others, and more completely.

Is she not what women are by their nature?

My experience with the good women I have known proves to me the special and sacred role women are endowed with, shows their unique divinely-given gifts and extraordinary strength.  They endure hardship and suffering and show a unique capacity of mercy, understanding and wisdom, for love that is undiminished. Their emotional range is something men do not possess, their insight unique to them.

I have often wondered why it is that in the present age women seek equality with men.  I, for one, see that as a decline for women.  They have always seemed to me to serve a superior and indispensable role compared to men.

Why, I ask, do they wish to be less?  Can it be that those who promote the equality of men and women do not value women as I do?  A secular view is, of course, reductionist and grossly material.  A sacred view is not.  The former is small, the latter expands beyond this – to the heavens, eternity, life everlasting.

It seems so middling to desire for women that they be “of this world” when they exceed this world in their given nature, and sacred role.

The disciples scattered and left Jesus when Mary did not.  Three women standing at the cross of Jesus.  Is this not a sign of their Trinitarian nature?  Their special place?

“Woman, behold thy son.”

Those who settle for equality settle cheap, become less, subtract from humanity and, perhaps, from themselves.