Why is marriage in such a poor state in our country?
In secular culture marriage is no longer marriage. Sounds strange doesn’t it. Let me explain.
Marriage is a spiritual reality at its most fundamental, and we are no longer a society or culture that understands the spiritual.
Marriages have, in all cultures throughout all time, been a spiritual union and experience – two persons (one male and one female) becoming one. In a highly-individualized society, two rarely become one. Secular culture does little more than cultivate the person as ego, endless selfishness is the result – likewise: no community, deadly loneliness, isolation, emotional starvation, no marital union, all sorts of disorders – some life-threatening.
Secular culture is a modern gulag – a solitary confinement with invisible walls enclosing nothingness.
Marriage is more than biological, or a convenient economic arrangement. It must be spiritual to succeed and to last.
The fact is marriage in secular culture is superficial for the most part, because secular people are superficial – and post-deconstruction women are (sadly) utterly deconstructed. This is why women are the majority of plaintiffs in divorces initiated by those over age 50. The secular person neither sees nor experiences much of human existence because they are unable or unwilling to live at any depth, or as spiritual beings (which is precisely what the human person is and what marriage depends upon).
Unless a marriage makes one feel that one is no longer alone – but has lasting companionship, there is no marriage, no union.
I knew a man who was married for 70 years and to his dying day never knew if his spouse loved him. Another in his 50′s who fell to the ground with a small stroke and wondered (indeed doubted) if his wife nearby would come to hold his hand. If this is your marriage – you have no marriage!
When there is no oneness in marriage, no spiritual reality in the union – I can tell you candidly that when the children are gone and the estate has reasonable size – your marriage will end and you will be half as wealthy and alone at middle age. That is marriage in secular culture – and shows itself clearly in the inane and ignorant way we “think” (using the word very loosely) about marriage in American exclusionary secular culture. Face it folks on public issue after pubic issue, you see evidence of gross ignorance and astonishing superficiality.
You see Western exclusionary secular culture kills ritual and in doing so it kills marriage and anything resembling inner reality, the Spirit and God. Heck, you can get “married” by a judge in ten minutes – some commitment to lasting unity!!!